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Breaking Free, A Message of Hope for Domestic Violence Survivors

If you are experiencing domestic violence, know this: you are not alone, and you do not deserve this. Abuse—whether physical, emotional, financial, or psychological—is never acceptable, and there is a way out. There is help, there is hope, and there is a future waiting for you beyond this pain.

Leaving is one of the hardest things you may ever do. The fear, the uncertainty, the deep emotional wounds—it can all feel overwhelming, like an up hill climb, and unachievable . But I want you to hear this loud and clear: you are strong, and you can break free. Tiffany and I are both Survivors of Domestic Violence. I wont lie and say it wont be hard but if we can and other people that are survivor's can get out, so it so can you!

Sometime victims don't realize that they are in a domestic violence situation because you are in denial, or maybe are thinking "I am staying for the Kids" or even thinking "They will Change". The truth though is that they never will and your never going  to be able to change that, so run as fast as you can and live to see another day. Survive and Thrive!

Recognizing the Signs

Domestic violence is not just physical harm. It can be:

  • Emotional abuse – Constant criticism, gaslighting, manipulation, or threats.
  • Financial control – Restricting access to money or employment to keep you dependent.
  • Isolation – Cutting you off from friends and family, making you feel alone.
  • Physical harm – Any form of hitting, choking, or physical aggression.
  • Sexual coercion – Being pressured into sexual acts against your will.

If any of this feels familiar, know that what you’re experiencing IS NOT LOVE. It is abuse, and you deserve safety.

Why It Feels So Hard to Leave

Abusers work hard to make their victims feel trapped. Fear, financial insecurity, isolation, and emotional manipulation create barriers to escape. You might worry:

  • "What if they find me?" – There are safe ways to leave, and organizations ready to help.
  • "I have nowhere to go." – Shelters exist, and people want to help you rebuild.
  • "No one will believe me." – Many survivors feel this way, but your experience is real.
  • "Maybe it will get better." – Abusers rarely change without significant intervention. You deserve safety now.

You are worthy of love that is free from harm.

How to Get Out Safely

  1. Create a Safety Plan – Pack a go-bag with essentials: documents, money, medication, and clothes. Identify a safe place to go.
  2. Reach Out for HelpThe National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) offers confidential support. Local shelters and support groups can help with housing and recovery. We have included the the phone numbers number and resource links for Lubbock and surrounding areas.
  3. Protect Yourself Digitally – Clear search history, use private browsing, and change passwords.
  4. Legal Protection – Restraining orders and legal advocates can help keep you safe.
  5. Find Emotional SupportCounseling and survivor networks can help heal the trauma. Tiffany and I are here for you too, just send an email or call the WhatsApp# we will come to action to help you.

You Are Not Alone

There is life beyond abuse. A life where you don’t have to be afraid. A life where your voice matters. A life where you are safe, valued, and free.

You are not alone. You are strong. You deserve peace, happiness, and healing.

If you need help, please reach out to The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) or visit thehotline.org.

You are loved. You are worthy. You are not broken. Tiffany and Deb Believe in You!